It’s a good technique. But not everyone will feel comfortable saying that they have no expectations from the request.
Episode 34 of TUB-Thump takes a look at another way of asking for something. And it’s a potential win-win. Because there aren’t that many times when acknowledging your lack of control can be in your favour.
01:10 – Hesitation and zero expectations. When no expectations don’t sound quite right.
02:00 – Give people the choice when you ask for something. Even though you have some sort of expectation, you know that the choice belongs very much the other person. As a bonus, highlighting that person’s control could help you to get the outcome you’d like. Two thumbs fresh!
I had stuff going on in the house. I was looking after the baby. I wanted a cup of tea.
“The kitchen has a lot of echo,” I thought. “What a perfect time to record an episode of TUB-Thump.”
The idea was to hit record on the device in my pocket and start talking about how easily we can do whatever we want.
It doesn’t always feel easy.
Sending a photo or video to a mate on Snapchat seems easier than publishing a video to the whole world. Having a conversation about your interests is okay in private, but it’s another thing to broadcast it globally.
Or is it?
Episode 31 of TUB-Thump is simply a nudge in the right direction for you to start your quest for awesomeness today.
Don’t let a lack of professional resources and equipment stop you.
Reid Hoffman, who founded LinkedIn, said:
“If you are not embarrassed by the first version of your product, you’ve launched too late.”
Let the embarrassment in, otherwise you may not let anything out.
And the world needs you. We need you, darn it! Even if you’re busy being responsible for a little human being and you’re standing in a kitchen with an echo.
Here are the show notes for the 4-min episode:
00:50 – Reaching out, publishing content, creating a portfolio…It’s all possible today. The entry requirements are very little.
01:30 – If I can record in a kitchen with an echo, on a phone or entertainment device, when holding a baby, what production value issues are stopping you?
02:00 – Production values don’t matter at first. The better they are, that’s great. But the bigger deal is creating value and being present.
02:30 – What can you do today? Perhaps you’ve been putting it off or you think you need a better setup before you start. Bottom line…You can probably do it now.
High tuition fees mean that a lot of people want to make the most of their time at university.
For some, that means knuckling down and focusing solely on the academic work.
Episode 029 of TUB-Thump has a different suggestion.
Your academic work is just one strand of your learning and development. You can get a totally different set of qualities and skills from the activities and experiences outside of class.
To broaden your horizons to the fullest extent, it’s time to face more than one learning path. When it’s time to plot your next destination in life, more than one path will give you a bigger choice toward the quickest route to success.
No need to feel guilty about spending some time away from the books. It’s expected of you.
Here are the show notes for the 7-min episode:
01:05 – You have two approaches to your learning at university. One is academic. The other is what you do outside of your degree work.
02:30 – The focus on broadening your horizons beyond your academic work is just as important for developing yourself, both for now and the future.
04:00 Many students still don’t realise how important the non-academic experiences are in shaping the story of you.
05:10 – If you’re focusing mostly on the academic, you could be missing out on social activities, as well as improving your future career chances.
06:10 – Don’t feel guilty about spending time away from the lectures and coursework for some of your time.
A friend of mine was invited as a guest on a podcast and was so worried about sounding nervous, rambling and unintelligent.
The interview was fine. But regardless of that, many listeners wouldn’t have noticed anyway.
Why not? Because a growing number of us speed up podcast audio as we listen. Some apps also take out some of the gaps in between speech. Even a nervous or slow performance can sound confident and well-paced.
This is an example of how everything we experience requires our perspective.
We don’t simply consume external voices. We use our current internal state of mood and perspective to translate those external events into our own internal experiences.
That means we can shape our mood and perspective to engage with the same content in different ways.
You may already know this, but it’s easy to take for granted. Unless you constantly meditate on the moment and have a deep awareness of your surroundings, life probably happens without you checking in every few minutes. Your perspective feels fixed, even though it’s constantly changing throughout the day.
But it’s good to change your perspective. Familiar things can feel fresh and new. Give it a try.
On episode 023 of TUB-Thump, I talk about this in terms of audio. Try listening to podcasts faster or slower than usual. How does it make you feel? How do you engage with the information, with the personalities, with the setup?
Where will your new perspective take you today?
Here are the show notes for the 7-min episode:
00:40 – What speed do you listen to your audio?
01:40 – People sound far more confident and competent when you hear them at a faster speed.
03:00 – What is your perspective when experiencing at a normal speed versus a faster speed?
04:30 – Can you find new perspectives and viewpoints when you immerse yourself in other things that you are otherwise used to?
05:50 – Find new ways to engage so you can find something new. The content hasn’t changed, but your analysis might.
06:30 – You don’t always need to up your game. Sometimes you just need to change it.