It’s a good technique. But not everyone will feel comfortable saying that they have no expectations from the request.
Episode 34 of TUB-Thump takes a look at another way of asking for something. And it’s a potential win-win. Because there aren’t that many times when acknowledging your lack of control can be in your favour.
01:10 – Hesitation and zero expectations. When no expectations don’t sound quite right.
02:00 – Give people the choice when you ask for something. Even though you have some sort of expectation, you know that the choice belongs very much the other person. As a bonus, highlighting that person’s control could help you to get the outcome you’d like. Two thumbs fresh!
Wait, don’t answer that. No matter how well you have your future planned, things never turn out quite that way.
For some, the outcome is mostly as expected. But you’re still been dealt a few surprises along the way.
For others, the outcome isn’t even close to what you imagined it to be.
And don’t forget those who don’t have a clue what their future holds. The mystery all but guarantees a surprising ride.
Even a steady path can see a sudden change in direction.
Take Brooke Storer-Church, for example. A decade into a restaurant career wasn’t enough to stop her trading it all in and moving back towards higher education.
Take technological advances, for another example. Who knows how you’ll live your life and what type of jobs will be needed a decade down the line?
When you do look back in five years, in a decade, or when you retire, you’ll have a story to tell. That story will be a bit more certain and easy to tell than the reality as you were living that story.
That’s why I wanted to take a few words from Brooke Storer-Church as inspiration for Episode 033 of TUB-Thump.
Wherever you see yourself in the future, get ready for an exciting ride of worthwhile twists and turns.
01:00 – You look back in time and create a story that looks like you had a clear, linear path to now. That’s fine in hindsight, but the reality is a bit different.
01:50 – Immense value in those bends…
02:30 – No matter how much you like what you’re doing now, that could change. It could take a year, 5 years, 10 years…And if it does change, that doesn’t mean you need to worry about it. It could even be a blessing.
03:50 – It’s interesting to see how people change as they develop. The process can be slow and disjointed, but can also be necessary.
04:30 – We don’t know what’s around the corner in the general context of the world, so how would we know how our own life will shape up until we’ve actually lived it?
05:00 – Whether you feel like everything is sussed out, or you haven’t got a clue what your next moves are, seek out the value in all the twists and turns you encounter.
I had stuff going on in the house. I was looking after the baby. I wanted a cup of tea.
“The kitchen has a lot of echo,” I thought. “What a perfect time to record an episode of TUB-Thump.”
The idea was to hit record on the device in my pocket and start talking about how easily we can do whatever we want.
It doesn’t always feel easy.
Sending a photo or video to a mate on Snapchat seems easier than publishing a video to the whole world. Having a conversation about your interests is okay in private, but it’s another thing to broadcast it globally.
Or is it?
Episode 31 of TUB-Thump is simply a nudge in the right direction for you to start your quest for awesomeness today.
Don’t let a lack of professional resources and equipment stop you.
Reid Hoffman, who founded LinkedIn, said:
“If you are not embarrassed by the first version of your product, you’ve launched too late.”
Let the embarrassment in, otherwise you may not let anything out.
And the world needs you. We need you, darn it! Even if you’re busy being responsible for a little human being and you’re standing in a kitchen with an echo.
Here are the show notes for the 4-min episode:
00:50 – Reaching out, publishing content, creating a portfolio…It’s all possible today. The entry requirements are very little.
01:30 – If I can record in a kitchen with an echo, on a phone or entertainment device, when holding a baby, what production value issues are stopping you?
02:00 – Production values don’t matter at first. The better they are, that’s great. But the bigger deal is creating value and being present.
02:30 – What can you do today? Perhaps you’ve been putting it off or you think you need a better setup before you start. Bottom line…You can probably do it now.
You’ve probably heard at least one person say that many of today’s jobs won’t necessarily exist in 10 or 20 years, while many jobs in the future simply don’t exist right now. So what’s the point, they argue, in chasing a particular role when it may soon be obsolete?
You could take it further. What if your dream role sticks around? Should you chase that job/career no matter what?
The reality may be to skip thinking about an individual route to a specific job.
In today’s TUB-Thump, I suggest that it’s more important to set career goals than it is to seek specific roles.
No matter what the job market looks like in years to come, you can build tangible, relevant skills right now. As you build your goals and list your growing achievements, you can shape yourself into whatever areas make most sense when the right time comes.
Each small career goal is attention to detail. Work on these now and keep taking more steps as you go.
Your career path is the bigger picture. Keep the path wide open until it’s time to pounce.
You may not be graduating for a few years. But you can start chasing career goals right now.
Much better than latching on to the possibility of a role that may or may not exist when you do graduate.
Here are the show notes for the 4-min episode:
00:35 – Instead of thinking about your future career roles, think about your future career goals.
01:00 – Roles can change over the years. By looking at goals, you can start right now. Better still, you can adapt as necessary.
01:50 – There are many goals to work on right now. Achieve as much as possible while you’ve got a chance.