In yesterday’s TUB-Thump, I gave a bonus tip on planning and scheduling.
It was a bonus tip, because you probably already schedule some (if not all) your stuff.
All this timetabling and commitment to regular tasks is useful. But how do you let a bit of spontaneity into your experience too?
We’ve all had moments when we decide to drop everything and do something fun on a whim. It’s not rare. Last minute decisions can be weekly. Daily, even.
When you take that spontaneous risk, do you get away with it? Or does it bite you on the bum?
Maybe you’re lucky most times. But every time you take the risk, you may not be so lucky the next time.
No matter how “in the moment” you plan to be, you’ve got lectures to attend and essay deadlines to meet.
Here’s the weird thing: Those scheduled events are a good thing.
Seriously. The more focused you are on your schedule, the more spontaneous you can be.
I know that sounds strange, but there’s a logic to it. When you’re in control of your day, you’re able to manage your free time and available gaps far better. You’ll know exactly when you’re at a loose end.
So far so simple. But there’s a big ask if you want it to work well. You need to be in control of YOU.
Just because someone else suggests an impromptu outing or social session, that doesn’t mean you should always agree.
So how do you work out the times when you *can* agree to some impulsive fun?
When you know you schedule intimately, you can rearrange it without fuss. The more you’re in control, the easier it is to make changes as you go along. When an impromptu session strikes, some are clearly possible and others aren’t. And when you’re at a definite loose end, you can choose the impromptu sessions yourself!
Every step of the way, this involves you being in control. Nobody else controls your situation. Peer pressure is a no-no.
Happily for you, peer pressure won’t feel so much like pressure anyway. When others try to overpower your initial decision, you’re swayed through uncertainty. By taking control of your timetable, you quickly know what will budge and what won’t.
If you’re determined to fit in something new when there’s no room left on your schedule, you’ll have to sacrifice something else on your list.
The good thing is, it should be clear what you can sacrifice, if anything.
Take these two situations:
- I was about to start working on an essay. I was starting early, so I had plenty of time to take a relaxed approach. It was a hot morning and it seemed like half the student village had decided to make the day an outdoor party. I could tell everyone was in a good mood, because friends were calling up to me and offering me free drink.
- I was trying to get my head around some concepts for an upcoming exam. There wasn’t much time left and I was still trying to work out best approaches and draft some test responses. Some of my mates decided to go to the SU for the evening and wanted me to come along.
Guess which of the situations I changed my plans for and which one I didn’t.
With plenty of time in the first instance, I rearranged my schedule so I could enjoy a day of debauchery fun in the sun. And as much as I wanted to go out in the second instance, there wasn’t the same wriggle room.
I had to say no in the second instance. It wasn’t important enough to sacrifice something else, and time was running out for the exam preparation.
Remember, no matter how much you’d like to sacrifice your academic work, that’s not the best plan… 😉
Do you feel in control of your schedule enough to let impromptu sessions into your life? And what’s the biggest thing you’ve ever had to say no to, even though you REALLY wanted to do it?