A lot of what I write is about concerns a positive mind and an attitude to do your best. But how often do we feel negative about a situation, a person, or life in general?
The answer is…Too much.
Kids don’t spend so much time on negative thoughts (even if it something feels like it!).
Children do these two things:
- When upset, a child can be uncontrollable. But it doesn’t take long before they usually calm down and forget all about the problem.
- When a child finds something interesting, they focus their entire attention on that one thing for a long, long time.
Adults do these two things:
- When upset, they focus their entire attention on that one thing for a long, long time.
- When an adult finds something interesting, they’re briefly happy. But usually, after very little time has passed, an adult will find twenty other things that need attending to and lose track of any initial interest.
For most uni goers, there’s a bit of the kid in us (woo!), but we’re adults too. It makes life pretty confusing at times.
No wonder we have our fair share of ups and downs.
So how do you achieve a positive attitude from a negative one? Here are some ideas:
- Change what you’re doing – If you’re sitting in silence, put some music on. If you’re on your own, go out and find a friend. If you’re out in the open, find a quiet room. Altering a situation often brings with it different thoughts and feelings.
- Read something inspiring – Some people grab a self-help book, while others read a bible. Some people read uplifting poetry, while others read motivating quotations.
- Sleep on it – If I ever have a problem, there’s nothing like a good sleep to refresh me. After some sweet dreaming, the problems don’t feel half as bad and I sometimes figure an answer in my sleep.
- Ask for help until you get somewhere – Many times, I’ve spoken to people who say that everything is wrong and they don’t know who to turn to. It doesn’t take much more conversation to discover they haven’t really considered who they could speak to, because they were worrying about the problems instead. Don’t dwell on what’s wrong…work out who can help put things right for you.
- Take a walk – We don’t often appreciate walking, but it needn’t be a hike. Just walk around the block a couple of times, or find a pleasant route that gives you reason to be happy. Change your route from time to time and it may even help inspire you more.
- Don’t keep talking about it – Telling the whole world – well, maybe all your friends – is probably not going to help you if you’re only telling them to get sympathy. It may be good to let go of a problem, but it’s daft to let go every five minutes. That seems more like holding on intentionally.
- Think about the good things in your life – Some people insist on saying that there’s nothing good in their life. But this is a personal task to help make things feel better. Forget about the way you want to make yourself known to the world, just humour yourself and think of the things that make you smile, that make you laugh, and that make you happy. Even if it’s weird and disgusting, at least you have something positive in your mind…
- Shrug your shoulders and get on with something more important – How crucial is this concern? Are you feeling negative about something relatively unimportant? At first, it may feel like the biggest mountain in the world. But it doesn’t take long before you’ve forgotten all about the problems of last week. Whenever you’re feeling low, remember to ask yourself if it’s really worth that extra mope!
- Move on – Similar to the last point. Children get a tantrum out of the way pretty quickly. Very soon, they latch on to a new interest. The entire reason for the tantrum has washed away just as quickly as it appeared. Who remembers the problem much further into the future? That’s right, the adult parents! So the next time you’re unhappy about a situation, get your tantrums out of the way and be prepared to move on to the next wonderful activity.