Take life seriously for more fun

The only way you can get the most from life is when you take it seriously.  The laughs, the fun, the success…everything is serious.

Don’t get me wrong, your outward character can be as eccentric and crazily happy as you want.  You can get a lot through seeking contentment, following passions, and enjoying yourself as much as possible.  But the way in which you approach life needs to be taken seriously.

photo by poolski

photo by poolski

If you’re determined to take flight every which way, without giving your actions proper thought and time, your enjoyment suffers.  A more determined, less casual approach will help you shine.

As soon as you shrug your shoulders at something, it becomes less serious and you suffer as a consequence. We all do it from time to time, because it’s another way for that dreaded ‘comfort zone’ to come along and lull you into a false sense of security.

When you find yourself going off the boil, ignoring the importance of every second of your life, don’t let yourself off.  Take the matter  seriously, before everything blurs and you forget how serious you need to be before you can convince at casual:

  • Take seriously the need to do some things you don’t want in order to get what you do want;
  • Take seriously the fact that your leisure time is usually more fun when you plan activities ahead;
  • Take other people seriously, even if you don’t agree with them;
  • Take yourself seriously, acknowledging your worth and the importance of your own ideas;
  • Seriously commit to changing the aspects of your life you want to change;
  • Seriously commit to achieving more of what you love and being who you want to be.

When you take the world seriously, you can still have larger-than-life ideas and great ambitions.  In many ways, a serious attitude makes it all the more possible.

There’s a book called “When Wishing Comes True”, which has a great message about taking life seriously no matter how imaginative you are and how much your wishes seem unlikely to come true.  Even better, it’s a book for children.

We all know how children don’t let the world get in the way of their bizarre plans.  Those plans may seem ridiculous to us, but the children are deadly serious about them!

I’ll leave you with the simple, yet strong message that “When Wishing Comes True” ends on.  And I hope you have a good time wishing…and taking it all seriously:

“First wish,
Then do.
That’s when wishing comes true.”

The beauty of thinking one term ahead

It’s fast approaching the end of another academic year.  Time to wave goodbye to all the work, all the fun, all the ups and downs.

As you wave goodbye, start preparing for the big hello next year.  Think about next term right now.  And when you get back, start preparing for after Christmas.

Sound a bit much?  Maybe.  But thinking ahead is sensible and time-saving.  There’s always time to relax, but never time to stop.

photo by Mariano Kamp

photo by Mariano Kamp

What do you want to achieve over summer? What’s important to you in the first months back at uni?  What goals can you work on between now and Christmas?

Thinking ahead doesn’t require a lot of work.  Just a few minutes of your time and a pen and paper will do.  A few brief thoughts and you’ll have a basic plan to work with for the near future.  This isn’t about long-term ambitions.  The exercise is to solidify your thoughts and give you greater perspective.

Compile notes, however brief you like.  No matter what you write down, you now have something to work from.  You have the scope to look back on what you achieved, see if reality turns out bearing any resemblance to the notes, understand what changed, explore what’s taking more time than you expected, consider how you might have done things differently, and so on.  Casual planning ahead is quick, it gets quicker, and it becomes easier the more you do it.

With no thoughts on your plans for the following term, all the planning ends up being done for you.  Put yourself in the driving seat with just a few minutes of planning ahead.  If you’re not used to setting targets and pushing forward with such positive waves, it can be daunting.  But it’s worth it.  Shaping your future productivity gives you a handle on your future enjoyment too.

Far from making promises that you may not be able to keep, you simply have an outline of the things you truly want to work toward.  If you do it all in a month and you expected the whole term, you’ve got plenty time to work on another project, have more fun, work ahead of your plan to free up even more time, or anything you darn well like.

That’s the beauty of planning ahead.  You’re managing your own life and saving yourself a whole lot of hassle in the process.

What’s not to like?

EduLinks – Lists, Loneliness & Lacking Privacy

Back again with loads of weekend reading and lush links for you.

Ben Casnocha – 50 Ways to Expose Yourself to Randomness

A list of ideas to launch you into new, exciting, interesting things.  You may not want to try any of the 50 suggestions here, but the point is to go and do something different that could open your eyes and take you to wonderful places.

Marc & Angel Hack Life – Top 40 Useful Sites To Learn New Skills

One of those great resource posts to bookmark and (hopefully) not forget.

BBC Magazine – What’s the difference between being lonely and a loner?

It’s okay to have loner moments.  It’s not the same as being lonely.  When you’re lonely you want company, when you’re being a loner you’re happy without it.

Politicrit – I #loveHE, so why don’t you?

Newell tells me this post felt like a great big rant.  But I like it and it reads well.

“I don’t work within the HE sector-although I like to think I work partly for it-but I regularly meet lecturers, Vice Chancellors, activists and student representatives. Every time I leave these meetings I leave in awe of the person that I’ve met. So why is it that this sector, which I will unashamedly admit I love with an ever growing passion, is constantly met with criticism, cuts and public apathy?”

BookBoon

BookBoon offers academic textbooks on its site for free.  With a growing collection on numerous topics, you should give them a visit to see what books may be of use to your study.

Smashing Mag – Bizarre Websites On Which You Can Kill Time With Style

Finished your exams now?  No?  You’re still busy?  Ah, then I don’t recommend you clicking the link above.  It’s too dangerous…

Compare My Radio

Tracking what gets played on UK radio stations, this site shows you what’s popular on the playlists.  Most interesting is the ‘variety gauge’, which lets you see how much a station repeats the same songs over and over again.  Compare BBC 6 Music’s 62% variety with Capital FM’s 3% variety.  Capital played only 240 unique tracks in the last month, while 6 Music played 3,603 unique tracks.  So when you say some radio stations seem to play the same tracks all the time, you wouldn’t be far wrong.

Search Engine Land – Facebook’s New “Simple” Privacy Settings Still Pretty Complex

Due to a huge backlash from users and critics over privacy settings, Facebook are responding by making the settings simple again.  Well, simple-ish.  What difference it makes, we’ll soon find out.  In the meantime, with so many users pumping out status updates and personal information to the world, you’re free to search what’s being said via services such as Booshaka and Openbook.  Tut tut.

Universities Week: What’s the Big Idea?

Universities Week is on 14-20 June 2010, hoping to engage the public with positive stories about the great role universities play in society.  Sad thing, as someone pointed out to me on Twitter, is that most universities won’t exactly be full of students in the middle of June…

Times Higher Education – Pulling Power

Why choose a particular uni?  What makes some institutions more exciting than others?  And just how does the London School of Economics get so many applicants (nearly 16 applications per place)?

Constructively Productive – 36 Secrets the Productivity Gurus Won’t Tell You (But Our Heretics Will)

Thursday Bram and Ali Hale have set up a new site that tries to bring “perspective to productivity”.  The above link brings all manner of people together to discuss unusual ways that they stay productive.  Because what works for one person won’t necessarily work for another.  The answer to what works best for you can only come from you.

Do you act on ideas, or encourage them to fade away?

Have you ever been in a situation where you felt so hyped up about something that your brain was buzzing with ideas?  So many great plans rush around your head and you can’t wait to start actioning all this great stuff.

And then?

And then nothing.

The initial excitement seemed enough to enthuse you to work on all sorts of projects.  The reality is different.  The rush disappears pretty quickly.

I’m not just talking about world-changing ideas and genius inventions.  Anything that inspires you is liable to disappear if you forget how it made you feel.

As a student, I had difficulty with this.  A LOT of stuff was exciting.  Every five minutes I’d feel involved in a big idea and I needed to drop everything.  Yeah, drop everything until the next big thing came along in another five minutes.

I still get this and I think it’s impossible to do anything different.  But I don’t let go of ideas that give me a huge buzz until I’m sure it’s not worth my time.

Why is it so easy f0r ideas to fade away and how can you give them more chance of moving beyond an initial idea?  Let’s explore some of the issues:

original photo by Isa's Photography

original photo by Isa's Photography

You have too many ideas

Classic problem.  Everyone thinks about stuff all the time.  You have more big ideas than you realise.  But you’ve got to drop some. A handful of big projects is manageable.  A forever increasing supply may feel safe, but it stops you working on any of the projects.  Go with your priorities and biggest ideas.  Unless it’s time sensitive, everything else can wait.  If it is time sensitive, but not a big deal, is it really worth your time?  Be brutal.

Forgot what you wanted to do (i.e. you didn’t write it down)

Slap yourself on the wrist and learn for future brainstorms.  The whizz of ideas in your head is nothing compared to those ideas written down.  Once you’ve noted the idea you can delve further without fear of forgetting what went before.

Idealised more than realised

You were excited, but it feels more like a pleasant dream of what could be.  “One day,” you think, not committing to anything.  If you’re happy not to go further, so be it.  But regrets come easy if you brush too many great ideas aside. Don’t forget that.

You ignored so many gaps/flaws, the plan now looks unworkable in reality

Fair enough, you went too far in a ‘perfect world’.  But before you scrap it all as a big joke, take another look.  How could you fill some of the gaps without going crazy (or doing something illegal!)?  It may not be as ridiculous as you think.

photo by Joel Bedford

photo by Joel Bedford

Following up the initial idea seems too much work (or you don’t have enough time)

Are you still interested, despite the lack of time?  If so, what activities can you afford to remove from your busy schedule to make way for time on your big idea?  You have just the same 24 hours in each day as anyone else.  What once seemed important may not be as important as your new plans.  So long as you don’t jump around aimlessly from plan and plan, a change in priorities can give you a fresh view.

Excitement has gone. Not the big deal you thought it was

These things happen.  You haven’t lost anything.  The next great idea is around the corner. You know it! 🙂

Fear of failure

Tried and failed? At least you tried.  Didn’t try at all?  Then you’re stepping in to “what if” territory and the possibility of regrets further down the line.  You owe it to yourself to push past the fear.  Many situations fail without complicated or embarrassing consequences.  When you do 100 things and succeed once or twice, it’s bound to be better than doing nothing at all.

Lack of others championing the idea now

Ideas can come from groups.  It’s easy to get swept away with the emotion and the passion shared with those around you. When they’re gone, you need self-belief and a personal drive toward the end goal.  If you’re lacking in enthusiasm, remember how you felt when you initially embarked upon things and why it felt so important.  Imagine how your efforts could help others or make a difference that counts.  You don’t need constant appreciation to realise your plans, but you do need a constant view in your mind of reaching the end goal.

photo by Janine

photo by Janine

Critics have pushed your ideas down a notch (or three)

I recently said how easily critics can crush you.  But how much better do they know?  Constructive help is fair enough, but random criticism is pointless.  Anyone in the public eye has to deal with loads of criticism, much of it throwaway, basic and opinionated.  They won’t stop doing what they believe in, so why should you?

Seems like too much work for too little gain

Stepping back a bit, you may be right.  What looked simple may not be the blessing you thought it was.  However, do consider if you can make that gain using an alternative method that’s less painful.  There’s often a way.

You need support, but don’t believe you can get it

First, you’d be surprised how much support is out there.  Second, have you considered all the types of support available?  You can get support other than just money and people power.  Third, what makes you so sure the support won’t be forthcoming?  Fourth, if that’s the only thing getting in your way, you’d be crazy not to at least try for some support.  Stopping at this stage would be like giving up at the last hurdle when you’re at your fittest.  My advice is keep going until you’ve tried to clear that hurdle with your best effort.

How easy do you find it to act on your ideas?  Do more fade away than you’d like?  What do you do to stay inspired?