10 tips to pick yourself up after a fall

When it all goes wrong, how do you recover?

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Quickly, I hope.

Failure and unexpected setback can eat away at you if you think about it too much. The more you let it take over, the less capable you will become in future assignments and activities.

This type of suffering is, of course, a double blow. It can have such a speedy snowball effect that you may not understand what originally caused such a problem so suddenly.

I hope these following tips serve as a help for any future falls. But if you’re experiencing the upset of a fall right now, don’t be alarmed; let these short tips bring you right back to recovery. Long may you be fighting fit and ready for anything!

10 tips to pick yourself up after a fall

  1. Don’t relive the memories – Firstly, you can’t change the past. Secondly, playing something over and over again in your mind doesn’t help. Thirdly, understand what went wrong so you can be ready for a similar problem next time, but do this through active consideration rather than replaying the moment disaster struck.
  2. Relegate the upset to the past – now is the time to move on, with your head held high, no matter how bad the situation was previously.
  3. Don’t keep trying to find ‘blame’ – From blaming yourself for everything, to blaming every person alive who isn’t you, it’s not useful to dwell on blame itself. By all means, learn from your mistakes, but don’t beat yourself up at the same time. And if someone else has caused this and you can’t do anything about it, your best bet is either to move well away from the source of the problem and to understand that your life can’t be perfect the whole time. None of us are immune to injustice and setback.
  4. Don’t mope around under your ‘comfort blanket’ – There’s no time to feel sorry for yourself. It only wastes time and affects the rest of your life negatively. Come out from under your blanket and prepare for better times.
  5. Plan ahead – What you do next could shape a remarkable comeback, or a festival of ‘nothing’. By planning ahead, you set yourself up for the former a lot better.
  6. Don’t fret, ponder and dwell – If you aren’t reliving the memories, you may still be agonizing over the problems. If you’re in deep dung, you can handle it better when you focus on actions, rather than the upsetting issues.
  7. Stop looking for sympathy – It’s ever so nice to hear that others are thinking of you in your difficult time. Sympathy and empathy do have their place, but don’t get stuck there. With too much sympathetic talk, you’ll just get used to the position with a negative stance. Remember, now is the time to move on!
  8. Write out your recovery plans – Put your actions in front of you. Note down how you aim to crush everything in your path. List all the feats you will be performing to get back on top. When you’ve written down your plans, you have a physical document to refer to. Stick it up on your wall and work toward it until you achieve the goals.
  9. RelaxDefeat stress, raise endorphins, and breathe.
  10. Smile! – Even if you haven’t picked yourself up yet, a smile can strengthen your resolve by many multiples. If you can let out a smile, you can overcome all kinds of setback.

I’m sure we’ve all fallen in the past. I certainly have. What ways would you suggest picking yourself back up? What has worked for you?

5 comments

  1. Nice post and great tips Martin.

    Just to expand on your #8.

    Get yourself a practical diary. One that you can take with you wherever you go. In other words, something small(ish) and convenient. It might be a proper diary, or it may just be a cheap pad that you use specifically for this purpose; doesn’t really matter as long as you can write in it and read it – and it won’t fall apart in two weeks.

    Electronic diaries are okay, but I’m kind of a fan of the old-fashioned written journal.

    Keep up the great writing Martin.

  2. Great point, Craig. Thanks for the tip.

    A diary could even help someone visualise the changes needed to get back up as quickly as possible. It’s another positive anchor.

    As for electronic notes vs. old-fashioned writing, I like both, but tend towards pen and paper myself. I find a combination of both formats a boon to my brain. It seems to get the most out of me that way.

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