Any loving parent would never want to disadvantage their child. Far from it. They would want to make sure the very best is coming their son or daughter’s way.
Helicopter Parents – those mums and dads who hover over everything to do with their child’s education – obviously want the best, but it’s likely to result in the opposite.
An article in The Guardian on January 2 caught my attention, because it seems that Helicopter Parents are now going further by embracing the job market for their kids. They’ll be researching, attending careers fairs, getting involved with negotiations, you name it.
I still remember eager parents taking the reigns in question and answer sessions at universities when I was visiting different institutions that I wanted to apply to. I went along with my dad to each place, but he acted only as an observer. In fact, in one presentation, he fell asleep and started snoring. I had to give him a dig in the ribs to wake him up!
When I asked for help, I would receive it…so long as it was possible and reasonable. But most of the time I had a lot of independence, which allowed me to learn for myself, as well as find my own voice. I’m thankful for that.
If parents are surveying every move of their (now adult) children and getting too involved in choices, it doesn’t bode well. How can that person’s confidence build up effectively? And when will they get to hear their own voice?
Parents may say, “It’s what I would have wanted if I had the chance,” but is it what YOU want?