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Do you act on ideas, or encourage them to fade away?

Have you ever been in a situation where you felt so hyped up about something that your brain was buzzing with ideas?  So many great plans rush around your head and you can’t wait to start actioning all this great stuff.

And then?

And then nothing.

The initial excitement seemed enough to enthuse you to work on all sorts of projects.  The reality is different.  The rush disappears pretty quickly.

I’m not just talking about world-changing ideas and genius inventions.  Anything that inspires you is liable to disappear if you forget how it made you feel.

As a student, I had difficulty with this.  A LOT of stuff was exciting.  Every five minutes I’d feel involved in a big idea and I needed to drop everything.  Yeah, drop everything until the next big thing came along in another five minutes.

I still get this and I think it’s impossible to do anything different.  But I don’t let go of ideas that give me a huge buzz until I’m sure it’s not worth my time.

Why is it so easy f0r ideas to fade away and how can you give them more chance of moving beyond an initial idea?  Let’s explore some of the issues:

original photo by Isa's Photography

original photo by Isa's Photography

You have too many ideas

Classic problem.  Everyone thinks about stuff all the time.  You have more big ideas than you realise.  But you’ve got to drop some. A handful of big projects is manageable.  A forever increasing supply may feel safe, but it stops you working on any of the projects.  Go with your priorities and biggest ideas.  Unless it’s time sensitive, everything else can wait.  If it is time sensitive, but not a big deal, is it really worth your time?  Be brutal.

Forgot what you wanted to do (i.e. you didn’t write it down)

Slap yourself on the wrist and learn for future brainstorms.  The whizz of ideas in your head is nothing compared to those ideas written down.  Once you’ve noted the idea you can delve further without fear of forgetting what went before.

Idealised more than realised

You were excited, but it feels more like a pleasant dream of what could be.  “One day,” you think, not committing to anything.  If you’re happy not to go further, so be it.  But regrets come easy if you brush too many great ideas aside. Don’t forget that.

You ignored so many gaps/flaws, the plan now looks unworkable in reality

Fair enough, you went too far in a ‘perfect world’.  But before you scrap it all as a big joke, take another look.  How could you fill some of the gaps without going crazy (or doing something illegal!)?  It may not be as ridiculous as you think.

photo by Joel Bedford

photo by Joel Bedford

Following up the initial idea seems too much work (or you don’t have enough time)

Are you still interested, despite the lack of time?  If so, what activities can you afford to remove from your busy schedule to make way for time on your big idea?  You have just the same 24 hours in each day as anyone else.  What once seemed important may not be as important as your new plans.  So long as you don’t jump around aimlessly from plan and plan, a change in priorities can give you a fresh view.

Excitement has gone. Not the big deal you thought it was

These things happen.  You haven’t lost anything.  The next great idea is around the corner. You know it! 🙂

Fear of failure

Tried and failed? At least you tried.  Didn’t try at all?  Then you’re stepping in to “what if” territory and the possibility of regrets further down the line.  You owe it to yourself to push past the fear.  Many situations fail without complicated or embarrassing consequences.  When you do 100 things and succeed once or twice, it’s bound to be better than doing nothing at all.

Lack of others championing the idea now

Ideas can come from groups.  It’s easy to get swept away with the emotion and the passion shared with those around you. When they’re gone, you need self-belief and a personal drive toward the end goal.  If you’re lacking in enthusiasm, remember how you felt when you initially embarked upon things and why it felt so important.  Imagine how your efforts could help others or make a difference that counts.  You don’t need constant appreciation to realise your plans, but you do need a constant view in your mind of reaching the end goal.

photo by Janine

photo by Janine

Critics have pushed your ideas down a notch (or three)

I recently said how easily critics can crush you.  But how much better do they know?  Constructive help is fair enough, but random criticism is pointless.  Anyone in the public eye has to deal with loads of criticism, much of it throwaway, basic and opinionated.  They won’t stop doing what they believe in, so why should you?

Seems like too much work for too little gain

Stepping back a bit, you may be right.  What looked simple may not be the blessing you thought it was.  However, do consider if you can make that gain using an alternative method that’s less painful.  There’s often a way.

You need support, but don’t believe you can get it

First, you’d be surprised how much support is out there.  Second, have you considered all the types of support available?  You can get support other than just money and people power.  Third, what makes you so sure the support won’t be forthcoming?  Fourth, if that’s the only thing getting in your way, you’d be crazy not to at least try for some support.  Stopping at this stage would be like giving up at the last hurdle when you’re at your fittest.  My advice is keep going until you’ve tried to clear that hurdle with your best effort.

How easy do you find it to act on your ideas?  Do more fade away than you’d like?  What do you do to stay inspired?

Who are you trying to impress? Cast aside the critics!

The creative process is never easy.  I’m not just talking essays.  Even the stuff you want to create is an uphill struggle.

Even a blog post, like this, is liable to bring a person down on their knees.  I want to make something, but I also want it to have meaning, value and purpose.  A lot of thought needs to go into the work.

photo by alicepopkorn

photo by alicepopkorn

How much care and attention should you give to a job before it’s presentable to anyone else?

Notice that I use the word ‘presentable’.  This isn’t about perfectionism.  I’m looking more at the self-conscious concerns that build up as soon as you start writing our own script.  You’re don’t know what direction this will take.  It’s exciting.  It’s interesting.  It frees you up to do what you want.

And that’s scary.

All at once you feel an awareness of a critical public watching your every move, preparing to pounce on every weakness.  All eyes are on you.  The critical public are waiting for you to slip up.

Most of that critical public exists only in the creator’s head.  Unfortunately, that’s the worst place the critics can exist!  It only serves to make the real-world critics seem even more threatening.

Critics, wherever they exist, should be no threat.  You owe it to yourself to push past the critics and get on with living:

“Sure, criticism hurts.
But a life unlived hurts more.” – Jonathan Fields

All too often, criticism is a trap.  Let’s say you’re performing something for 20 people.  19 of those people are satisfied with what you’re doing.  Only one person questions your performance and digs in to what they saw.

How do you react?  Are you happy that 19 people appreciated what you did, or do you focus on the one critic?  Or…or…do you stick to appreciating your own creative process in your own way?  You don’t have to focus on any of the 20 people.

Nevertheless, many people would react to that one critic in the room.  It hurts and the comments may eat away at you for a while.  I’ve fallen into that trap before.  In the hugely connected and public world we now live in, we are acutely aware of our position under the spotlight. Just one comment can lead to doubt.

Whenever you doubt yourself, remember this: you are an individual with faults and failings, just like every individual.  If you can use criticism to improve your future efforts, fantastic!  But mere opinions that goes against your creative plans aren’t worth worrying about.

Artist Grayson Perry has an interesting take on the creative process:

“Being creative is all about being unself-conscious; being prepared to make a bit of a fool of myself. In my experience, embarrassment is not fatal.”

Robert McCrum analysed Perry’s words in The Guardian and makes an interesting point:

“If genuine originality is at stake, the artist will probably be in two minds about what he or she is up to, and unwilling to offer an easy account.”

Is it acceptable for us to make public mistakes or to step back from trying to impress everyone out of fear?  Will there really be any relevant and damaging repercussions if you suffer the odd embarrassment?

Try your best and it’s highly unlikely you’ll suffer any real damage in the process.  Creativity is random and subjective.  If you have a willingness to learn from all that you do, criticism should either be constructively helpful to you or words to ignore.

It’s impossible to know how to impress all the time.  The creative process is about enjoyment and discovery.  Creativity under stress isn’t creative at all.  Have you ever heard of restrictive creativity?  No, me neither.

The whirl of life and doing what you want

My life has whirled in so many directions over the past fortnight.  Up, down, left, right, high, low, upside down, inside out.

(That’s before you even include the election madness that’s been going on.)

I’ve been all over the place…mainly in a good way.

And that’s how it should be.

How can you be inspired by the world around you if you don’t experience it?  How would you aspire to greater things if you didn’t seek out new opportunity and step outside your comfort zone?

A number of issues stop you from doing exactly what you want:

  • External rules;
  • Supposed rules;
  • Self-imposed rules;
  • Fear;
  • Peer/Family expectations;
  • Time factors;
  • Your current situation and limitations.

photo by Ed.ward

photo by Ed.ward

Rules

The only rules that should set you back in any major way are legal ones.  Most laws are perfectly reasonable, so I’ll skip over the not so reasonable laws and case studies.

Other rules may change the level of success you achieve, but you can’t tell the future.  There’s no way to tell whether rules are helpful or there to be broken.

Great artists, musicians, composers, scientists, explorers, thinkers, and writers have deliberately broken established rules again and again in order to create and discover new things. Discovery often comes from disproving what was believed in the past.  Discovery also comes from seeking new ways of doing something.  If everything followed one course, there would be no need to break rules and we would never encounter anything new.

Fear

What about fear?  Fear is a relation of perfection.  Stepping into the unknown is one of the biggest steps to take.  Subsequent moves are not covered with so much darkness.

As with perfection, you don’t want to get things wrong.  Fear stops you from doing something wrong in the darkness.

A side effect of fear is that you do nothing right in the darkness either.  You do nothing at all.

Some fear isn’t worth fearing and it’s easy to get the odds wrong.  Is it time you took that risk?

Expectations

There there are expectations.  All of us have an opinion.  Would I do things differently to you?  Probably.  Not necessarily because I think you’re wrong, but because we all do things differently.  You would likely do things differently to me too.

It’s one thing to seek advice, but it’s another thing to feel a block after hearing advice that goes against what you had planned to do.  Eye-opening advice is fair game, but feeling pressure to do what someone else says is pointless.  There’s no use feeling guilty that you aren’t following a suggestion unless you were totally persuaded by it.

Time

As for time factors, I’ve covered time in depth in the past with my Make Time for Time series.  I also recommend Cal Newport’s articles on the Radical Simplicity Manifesto and becoming a Zen Valedictorian.  Time isn’t always on your side, but you have more power to control it and more time at your disposal than you realise.

Your current situation

The last block is that of your current situation.  It’s one of the few factors that can scupper those otherwise wonderful plans.  But you have two tools at your command:

  1. Compromise;
  2. Change.

In a relationship, both sides need to show an element of compromise.  Same with most things that don’t solely affect you.  If the other side is unwilling to budge, you must decide whether to accept it, seek an alternative way around the problem, or use the second tool of change.

What if you are unwilling to budge? Accept that not everything is possible.  You have to forego something until you’re happy to make that change.

Change is more easily said than done.  That all-important second tool is freely at your disposal, yet is such a deceptive beast.

Tools don’t usually do the job for you.  Same with using change.  The most proficient and skilled of users show off their achievements while you watch in awe.  Until you begin mastering change, you won’t be able to use it to full advantage.

Annoyingly, change doesn’t come with instructions and everyone tends to use it somewhat differently.  However, effective change begins when you ask how important your plans are compared to your current circumstances.  When those new plans feel more important and give you more drive, change becomes a lot easier to control.

Rules to break

I’ll conclude with some rules:

  • Most rules can (and often should) be broken;
  • Not all rules are strictly rules, except in your head;
  • Fear is sometimes necessary, but must be conquered, ready for you to encounter the next fear;
  • Place greatest importance on your own expectations;
  • Don’t knock yourself down if expectations don’t work out as you wished;
  • Develop your relationship with time. Only stop developing that relationship when time stops…Time hasn’t stopped yet;
  • Be prepared to change your situation.

The last two weeks may have been different for me, but I don’t view it as a bad thing.  You know what’s funny?  Through all my new encounters, I found even more inspiration toward the things I’m already engaged with and passionate about.  You can be inspired by the strangest (and most simple) of things.

Be on the lookout for inspiration everywhere you go and in everything you do.  May the whirl of activity never end.

Making your own decision should be a DIY job.

Just because ‘everyone else does it’ doesn’t mean you should join in.  It may be ‘everyone’ around you drinking heavily and partying regularly, it may be ‘everyone’ procrastinating on purpose, it may be ‘everyone’ moaning about the state of the course without actively trying to change things.

Whatever you see ‘everyone’ doing, don’t be afraid to make your own decision.  If you want to do something else, do something else.  When it doesn’t affect anyone but yourself, make the choice your own.

photo by andrewatla

photo by andrewatla

Shunning the popular choice may be difficult and uncomfortable.  Doubly so if your decision means giving up something you enjoy or challenging yourself to work harder.  Remember, the popular choice doesn’t automatically make it the best choice.

It’s fine to forego the odd social outing or event.  Even entirely respectable activities can be dropped in favour of enhanced focus, or a calmer lifestyle.  Do you really need to be an active member of 7 societies, volunteering for 2 causes, and keeping down a part-time job, all while trying to stay on top of study?

Grasping what is truly important is harder than it seems.  No wonder we look to ‘everyone’ for some sort of approval.

The decisions we make are never simple, because we — consciously or unconsciously — weigh up a number of issues that shouldn’t matter to us, yet do.  It’s common to live in fear of disappointing another person, causing unintentional embarrassment or offence, and even destroying solid relationships that you’ve built up.

In other words, you don’t want to get things wrong.

But everyone gets stuff wrong all the time.  The greatest people to have lived have done some incredibly dumb stuff too.  And I’m sure they’d be first to admit it, even if they weren’t first to explain the acts in detail!

Don’t be scared of doing dumb things.  You’ll only end up doing nothing at all.  As crazy as the world seems, there are two major reasons why people cross the line:

  1. They cross the line intentionally. They weren’t scared of doing a dumb thing;
  2. Your version of ‘crossing the line’ is their ‘normal’. They didn’t even consider it a dumb thing.

The line is not fixed.  The line is an illusion.

No matter what you do, someone will think you’re going too far and someone else will think you’re not going far enough.  You need to be happy that you’re making the right decisions for you, not for other people.  You still need to think your actions through; it’s how other people may feel that should be given less weighting.  If your decision doesn’t directly affect other people, make it a do-it-yourself job all the way.

How have you moved away from an otherwise popular situation?  Have you taken a different attitude and found it worked to your advantage?